• Carson Hathaway

Who am I?

Updated: Aug 22

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My name is Carson Hathaway and I seek to transform into a confident, consistent and mindful person. These are characteristics that anyone can develop. However, many people wish for things that aren’t fully in their control: being very tall, having massive strength, and having good looks. I would like all of those things, but I realize that it doesn't matter WHAT you are, it matters WHO you are.

In my 21 years of living, I’ve unconsciously spent more time thinking about what others thought about me than thinking about what I thought about myself. It’s human nature to care about what others think of you, but obsessing over the opinions of others is an unhealthy habit. With enough self-confidence, you will be the only person that you will need validation from. I want to be the main character of my own life story. I want to be able to handle adversity. When there’s something I want to say or do, I want to do it. Actions are what get results.

Consistency is one of, if not the most important, characteristics anyone can have. There are days when I get a lot of work done but there are also days when I don’t get anything done at all. When playing sports, there are times when I give tons of effort but other times when I just mail it in. There are mornings when I get out of bed right away but there are also days when I waste 45 minutes to an hour in bed after I’ve already woken up. I'm still the same person in all of those situations and my surrounding environment remains mostly unchanged. The reason is inconsistency.

There are people who are more successful than others. It's not always because they are smarter or more talented. Rather, it often comes down to consistency. Tom Brady is the greatest quarterback in NFL history. However, he's certainly never been the biggest, fastest, or most talented. Brady is the greatest of all time because of his consistency. The seven-time Super Bowl champion has an unrelenting work ethic and consistently makes great decisions on the field. Natural human nature is to do enough just to get by rather than striving to be your very best. Many people know the work that is required to accomplish their goals but are unwilling to consistently put in the effort in order to make their dreams a reality.

During my first semester in college, I quickly realized how busy college students can be. We are rightfully worried about our classes, social lives, and extracurricular activities. All of that along with living on my own for the very first time was very stressful. I started learning about mindfulness during my first semester in school, which was very good timing. Learning how to be mindful helped me lessen my stress by focusing on one task at a time. I realized the importance of “locking in” on what’s in front of me. I realized the importance of staying in the moment. No matter what you’re doing, it’s impossible to do your best if you aren’t giving it your complete attention.

I took a gap year this past academic year due to the COVID-19 pandemic. During my year off from school, I worked as an office assistant for a small logistics company. I worked from 8:30-5:30 Monday through Friday and it was my first full-time job. That was a good experience, but it was more of a temporary stop than a final destination. After spending so much time isolated while being stagnant in my personal and professional life, I am starving to get back on campus. The long, agonizing wait has been rough, but it might serve to be a great thing in the long run. My gap year forced me to change my usual routine. For as long as I can remember, I was a student in school for the entire year except for the summer. I normally would return back to school at summer's conclusion. However, that obviously wasn’t going to be the case during my gap year. Since my routine had already changed, I thought it would make sense to reflect and think about my previous habits. Was I being productive with my time? Was I happy with where I was in life? Was I enjoying life to its fullest? I noticed that too much time was being spent towards watching TV during my first three semesters on campus. Watching TV is something you can do anytime before, during, and after your time in college. Many people consider the time they spent in college as the best time of their lives. However, it doesn't last forever which means I should take advantage of it while it lasts. I want to make connections, participate in more extracurricular activities, and do things that I won't be able to do once I graduate. I am currently double majoring in Journalism and Psychology. I'm not exactly sure where these studies will take me but I know that I like to write and I'm interested in how people think about things.

I decided to major in psychology because I’ve come to think that it’s extremely interesting how our brains work and why we as humans behave in certain ways. Many of us realize that it’s wrong to obsess over what others think about you, but we still do it anyway. Many are aware that it’s ignorant to judge others before getting to know them, but we still do it anyway. Many people want to change certain things about their lives but we never do and just remain the same people. What is the result of this stagnation? Stubbornness? Ignorance? Fear?? Our beliefs about selves can hold us back and prevent us from reaching our full potential. On the contrary, having confidence in ourselves can go a long way. You’ve only failed when you haven’t tried or stopped trying.

It’s important to realize how much our inner thoughts impact our mood and daily activities. The average person has over 6,000 thoughts per day. Those thoughts impact our emotions and dictate how we see the world. I’m the only one that’s aware of what’s constantly going on in my head. You’re the only one that knows what’s constantly going on in your head. This is a really fascinating concept to me because while we all like to speculate and assume things about others, we don’t know what’s really happening behind the scenes. A happy face could just be masking an inside that’s filled with despair. On the contrary, an emotionless dull-looking person could be happy as a clam on the inside. Our thoughts are responsible for our actions, which play a huge role in defining who we really are.

All the way back in March of 2020, (sorry to remind you about that time) when the COVID-19 lockdowns began, everything was shut down and everyone was being encouraged to stay inside. Because of that, I was isolated from everything and had a lot of free time on my hands. You find out a lot about yourself when there’s nothing to distract you. I was more aware of my inner thoughts during this time of constant isolation. Unfortunately, I was doing a lot of negative thinking. I worried about what people, who knew nothing about me, thought of me. I couldn’t control my anger about other people’s false perceptions of me. I lacked the confidence needed to be mentally healthy. I’ve made improvements in these areas but I can and want to be mentally stronger. Discipline is something that I’ve come to value. Being productive with my time, arriving not just on time but early to places, and mainly focusing on things that I can control are traits that I always want to be implemented in my life. These things seem simple, but the little things can make a big difference. COVID-19 disrupted the entire world and forced us all to adapt. Hopefully, you’re a better person now than you were before the pandemic.

I'd like to think I have this long, crazy, mysterious game known as life figured out. Deep down, as a 21-year-old with hopefully lots of years remaining, I know that way of thinking is full of shit. As I continue to navigate through life, I will share my own personal stories, offer tips on personal development, and help you become the best version of yourself.

You might be thinking: "Why should I listen to a 21-year-old for self-help and personal development advice?"

Good question. If I were you, I’d be asking the same thing about some random 21-year-old on the internet. I don't think that I'm better than anyone else, but I don't think that anyone else is better than me. Additionally, we've all experienced different things and have different perspectives. You can learn a lot by listening to other people because you likely haven't seen or experienced everything that they have. I believe that I can have a positive impact on your life with my content.

You might also be thinking: “Why would I listen to Carson Hathaway instead of an established self-help author like Mark Manson?”

Another good question. Many, if not all of the people I personally consume content from have large followings. Mark Manson is a New York Times bestselling author and has over 350,000 subscribers on YouTube. Those facts alone make him far more credible than I am right now. However, viewing Mark Manson’s content and mine is not mutually exclusive, why can't you view them both? Additionally, we’ve all had to start somewhere. Every writer who is now extremely well-known had to share their first article at some point, which is something I’m doing now. Many of those well-known writers possibly didn’t have a very large following or any following at all when they first began. Also, like anything in life, you never know until you try. Plus, if you've made it this far into the article, you're clearly somewhat interested in what I have to say.

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