• Carson Hathaway

Problems with modern day relationships.

I have never been in a serious relationship in my entire life. With that being said, you might take what I have to say about romance with a grain of salt. I'm not a politician but I still vote in elections. I've never played a down of organized tackle football in my life but I'll still talk about the NFL. With those things being said, I am going to share my opinion about modern-day relationships. You have every right to ignore someone who has never been in a serious relationship before. Likewise, I have every right to speak my mind.

Many people that are single and looking for a significant other have unrealistic expectations for what a relationship should look like. Social Media has played a role in this. We see all the romantic captions and photos. The reality is, those snippets don't even show 0.1% of the interactions a couple has. It's important to realize that many of the people who post those photos care more about saying and showing off that they are in a relationship rather than actually being in one. Outsiders have no idea what's happening behind the scenes. Additionally, there are countless movies that center around a single guy that has a crush on a certain girl. By the end of the movie, those two end up falling in life and supposedly live happily ever after from now until the end of time. Stereotypes in media perpetuate stereotypes in real life. The harsh reality is, relationships, or even life in general, are never that simple.

Many people will initially judge someone based on physical appearance. Those first impressions can be misleading because looks aren't everything. It's common for two people to end a relationship because of differences in personalities or opinions. This is another example of social media distancing us from reality. We can choose to only see/be exposed to what we want to see. For instance, many people watch CNN and Fox News not to be informed, but because they know they will hear what they want to hear from those networks. This makes it much harder for us to be around others, especially those with who we went to be in a relationship with, that have different opinions than we do.

The dating app Tinder has also had an overall negative effect on how some view relationships. As a user on Tinder, you are introduced to countless different people. When viewing every individual person, you will have the opportunity to "swipe right" or "swipe left" on the person you are being shown. If you are interested in a certain person, you will "swipe right". If not, you will "swipe left". If two users "swipe right" on each other, they will "match" and be able to message each other through the app. This process sounds simple. The truth is, it's much harder than meets the eye.

There are far more guys on Tinder than girls which allows girls to be extremely selective with who they want. Additionally, Tinders algorithm makes it even harder to get matches. It's very unlikely that you see, or have the opportunity to "swipe right" on others that have "swiped right" on you. Additionally, not everyone who uses Tinder is on the platform for the same reasons. Some tinder users are looking for long-term relationships, where others are only looking for hookups or one-night stands. 84% of dating app users are on Tinder. However, 34% of those users are on Tinder primarily for entertainment.

Many people first look to be in a relationship when they arrive on college campuses. That can be a slippery slope because some want long-term relationships, while others want short-term relationships or one-night stands. Regardless of what you are looking for, just remember that expectations don't always match reality.

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